I really feel for you:) I must say that it's a relief, in a bizarre kind of way, to know that other mommies get frazzled,too. Kids can be so...challenging, to put it mildly.
Lol, I often think of that song by Clash "Should I Stay or Should I Go" whenever I'm gearing myself up to get out with the kids...
"Should I stay or should I go now? If I go there will be trouble An’ if I stay it will be double.."
I dug up just one of my many "frazzled mommy" stories if you're in the mood to read it. It was written when my kids were 2, 3, and 8. Sometimes I honestly don't know how mothers do it. One moment at a time, I guess!
I can so very much relate to the experiences & emotions you are expressing about motherhood. I remember when I had only Reed (& he was still small), & I would poke around in antique stores & flea markets as he slumbered; then we'd stop to nurse in some out-of-the-way chair or couch, not all that concerned if someone disapproved (although, we were rarely noticed). THen, if Jeff & I wanted to go out to eat, or to a jazz festival or WHATEVER, we just would. I thought "No big thing! You don't have to change your lifestyle all around to accomodate kids" Woaaa!!!! Then he grew & so did I- first pregnant & tired, then busy with wee Morrin (not as contented a baby as Reed). What had I been thinking?! When REed was 3, I felt like I must have gone terribly wrong. He was defiant & rowdy & worst of all he wasn't very into hugging for awhile. But it was all part of him finding out how to use his control panel. It really DID pass!! Now at five, he's so conscientious & affectionate & thougtful about things. That doesn't mean that he doesn't pinch Morrin or have a defiant moment with us; but I realize he's so much his own person, & I look forward to knowing him for many years!!! Remember- kids thrive on love, & I believe your kids are swimming in the stuff!!! Hang in there!
thanks, jodi. i hope it will pass. i worry about milo growing more defiant as he gets older.
today the babysitter took him to his soccer class, and she said he was fine. that's amazing to me, because last time he went (also his first time) he did what the coaches said for the first half of the class, and did the exact opposite the second half. it was funny and not funny at the same time.
o well, the important thing is for me not to loose it. i think people can laugh at your kid's antics only if you can. if you let yourself get upset they raise their eyebrows. if you roll your eyes and remove them from the situation, they chuckle.
You're so right- a little levity goes a long way! And anyway, if other people are too uptight to laugh (poor souls), at least you end up feeling better! Thanks for the reminder! I try, but sometimes I don't do it so well, like when I'm already all worn out.
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once again, the scale is way off on this one. it looks like lily is 9 and milo is 7 instead of 5 and 3. o well.
Well, I can tell by the toy stroller that Lily couldn't be that old, I don't know a 9-yr-old who would be caught dead pushing one of those, LOL.
Sounds like a tough day! Oh the joys of motherhood, and I'm not even halfway there with my little one yet!
sometimes you just have to go back home and reboot your day.
I really feel for you:) I must say that it's a relief, in a bizarre kind of way, to know that other mommies get frazzled,too. Kids can be so...challenging, to put it mildly.
Lol, I often think of that song by Clash "Should I Stay or Should I Go" whenever I'm gearing myself up to get out with the kids...
"Should I stay or should I go now?
If I go there will be trouble
An’ if I stay it will be double.."
I dug up just one of my many "frazzled mommy" stories if you're in the mood to read it. It was written when my kids were 2, 3, and 8. Sometimes I honestly don't know how mothers do it. One moment at a time, I guess!
http://www.onewomanslife.com/journal/2002/11/all-good-things-must-come-to-end_05.php
o my goodness! what a day you had. it seems like i'm having alot of those lately.
milo is in a cycle of not playing nicely with other kids.
and because of that i'm too tired to take him somewhere just to wrestle with him.
and because of that he is stir crazy.
and because of that he still doesn't play well with other kids...
I can so very much relate to the experiences & emotions you are expressing about motherhood. I remember when I had only Reed (& he was still small), & I would poke around in antique stores & flea markets as he slumbered; then we'd stop to nurse in some out-of-the-way chair or couch, not all that concerned if someone disapproved (although, we were rarely noticed). THen, if Jeff & I wanted to go out to eat, or to a jazz festival or WHATEVER, we just would. I thought "No big thing! You don't have to change your lifestyle all around to accomodate kids" Woaaa!!!! Then he grew & so did I- first pregnant & tired, then busy with wee Morrin (not as contented a baby as Reed). What had I been thinking?! When REed was 3, I felt like I must have gone terribly wrong. He was defiant & rowdy & worst of all he wasn't very into hugging for awhile. But it was all part of him finding out how to use his control panel. It really DID pass!! Now at five, he's so conscientious & affectionate & thougtful about things. That doesn't mean that he doesn't pinch Morrin or have a defiant moment with us; but I realize he's so much his own person, & I look forward to knowing him for many years!!!
Remember- kids thrive on love, & I believe your kids are swimming in the stuff!!! Hang in there!
thanks, jodi. i hope it will pass. i worry about milo growing more defiant as he gets older.
today the babysitter took him to his soccer class, and she said he was fine. that's amazing to me, because last time he went (also his first time) he did what the coaches said for the first half of the class, and did the exact opposite the second half. it was funny and not funny at the same time.
o well, the important thing is for me not to loose it. i think people can laugh at your kid's antics only if you can. if you let yourself get upset they raise their eyebrows. if you roll your eyes and remove them from the situation, they chuckle.
You're so right- a little levity goes a long way! And anyway, if other people are too uptight to laugh (poor souls), at least you end up feeling better! Thanks for the reminder! I try, but sometimes I don't do it so well, like when I'm already all worn out.
amen sister
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